They may forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel
Carl W. Buechner
Inevitably, every coach will hunger for the right words when trying to communicate with his team, especially in certain situations. Whether the situation is before a big game, after a loss, while overcoming adversity, or otherwise, articulating the right idea in words can be most important in the ongoing drive for success. There is always a need for saying the right thing at the right time
The main reason for giving a positive instruction is the mind does not understand a negative instruction
I.e. if I say to you don’t think of the colour black,
What do you think of? The very thing you were asked you not to do!
By using the principle of using positive instruction Stating what you want rather than what you don’t want can have a powerful positive effect on the mind, but many coaches still tell players what they don’t want, producing negative thoughts.
When you shoot don’t miss the target might be the instruction from the coach to player, but would it not be better to instruct the player when he shoots to hit the target? Phrases such as ‘don’t foul’, ‘don’t lose the ball’, ‘and don’t lose the game’ can all be replaced by more positive instructions
Communication exercise
List 5 negative instructions you say to yourself
And replace them with a positive instruction
For example as a coach you might make a tactical error during a game, and say to yourself you idiot you always get that wrong
Are more favourable instruction might be how can I learn from this and improve the situation
Focus on the outcome you want
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Positive instruction
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Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habits. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.
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